Last year I was at my uncle’s house and he was telling me that I really don’t have much time to find my mate. After all, it takes time and if you want to have babies tick tock, tick tock. I was a little freaked out by it all. Having gone through a pretty big breakup I wasn’t seriously looking, I was more at a point where I wanted to figure out what I was looking for before I tried to find it….but then this fear set in that I’m 31, and time is running out.
Shortly after I had my “aha” moment! I was thinking about life and where I wanted to be at different points at my life. I had read in the paper earlier that day that the idea that you shouldn’t have children after 35 was never based on fact, but based on assumptions that have never been proven, or even tested. And then I figured that if I can safely have children until I’m 40 that means I have 9 years to find my mate….that’s a huge amount of time! I felt a huge weight being lifted off my shoulders. I allowed myself to sit back and reflect on what I wanted…while still going out on dates and figuring it out as I went along.
A few months later I met someone fantastic. Thankfully I let fear subside and I ignored all those worries about life and being single. When I met my boyfriend and we started dating I was able to approach it with a fun and worry free attitude instead of a schedule. I was able to enjoy getting to know someone, instead of trying to determine if he was my match after only a few dates.
And that’s one of the little things that made a huge difference in my life.