I’m a big believer in having life goals, and working towards those goals with solid plans. But one of the funny things about achieving a dream life, is that it takes a lot of work and determination to get there. For me, buying my first condo in 2007 was a dream come true.
I bought my condo at a bit of a turbulent time in my life. I’d recently broken up with my long term boyfriend and it was a less than perfect ending, I was pulling crazy hours with a full time job and endless nights at university finishing my master’s thesis, and I was in a long distance rebound relationship. Needless to say there was a lot going on in my life, but I stayed on track so I could get that much closer to my dream life.
When I bought my place I felt so accomplished. I’d dreamed of getting into the real estate market for so long, and scrimped and suffered to save up for my down payment. It was something that I had wanted to do for years, but my long term relationship was holding me back from doing this. While I sacrificed to save up to buy a place, without a supportive partner when you are in a relationship it’s almost impossible to make your dreams a reality.
So when things ended I moved into a different phase in my life where I didn’t have to compromise my goals anymore.
Finally I was able to buy my first place. I was filled with pride that I’d been able to succeed in one of my long term dreams…and best of all, it made me realize that I am able to achieve my dream life. Not only did I feel so proud for getting my first place, but it made me realize that relationships should bring out our better selves and make us closer to achieving our dreams.
After I bought my place I was done with spending time in relationships that held me back, or didn’t enhance my life.
And that’s one of the little changes in my life that has made a huge difference overall.