Today is a guest post from Lily, our recent divorcee who is learning hapiness post divorce.
Why is it so hard for us to jump in with both feet? When given the opportunity to start over so many of us end up back in the same path they were before.
Recently divorced and laid off, the world is my oyster; or at least it should be. I spent the first 30 years of my life with a very specific path, so much so that I stuck on my blinders whenever something popped up that could derail me (like marrying the wrong person). I had a plan, and come hell or high water I was going to execute that plan; only it was a bad plan, an un-executable plan, a plan that never no matter what I did would come to fruition.
So now I am at a crossroad, left or right? Get back onto the path I had before and just try again, or realize that things need to change, that I need to take some risks, try something new?
Sounds like an easy choice to an outsider; “get out there” people are saying to me “take some risks! Try something new! You’re being given a second chance at life!” but to me one road is paved with a guarantee of something, not necessarily happiness but contentment and the other is sheer uncertainty.
So ladies I ask you, when your life has been turned upside down, and all your plans thrown out the window, is that the time to go down the same, solid, well known path of safety or is it time to throw caution to the wind and step into the unknown for a chance at a whole new life?
Get to know Lily better: Read her hit article that was posted earlier on Men Vs. Women: Who Brings Condoms