Today’s article is a guest post from a Lily, a recent divorcee who is re-learning the dating ropes.
I literally could not believe what was coming out of her mouth “why would I keep condoms at my house? That’s his responsibility”. I almost fell over. Now I am sure most of you are thinking that I must have been having a conversation with a sure-to-be knocked up soon 16 year old, but sadly no. I was talking to a divorced 32 year old woman.
At this age I was shocked to discover that people are still taking this attitude. A strong enough woman to leave her husband when she was unhappy, become a successful lawyer, and yet somehow does not seem to be able to take control of her own sex life. I got curious, perhaps I was a little too in control of my sex life, maybe I was the odd ball out with a box of condoms in my night table drawer (which by the way still seems to be full, but that’s a whole other post!) so the polling of my friends became my newest past time. I literally asked everyone I knew who was single if they had condoms at their house.
Pure shock, you have no idea how many woman still think it’s the guys job to bring the condoms. Newsflash ladies, if you don’t have condoms at your place your choices become, 1) no sex (bad choice when you are already at the point of needing a condom) 2) uncovered sex (do I really need to explain the reason for this being a bad choice?!). I don’t know about you but neither of these two options seem like good ones for me. So ladies, it’s 2010 if you’re going to have sex, be prepared, take control of your sexual destiny, and splurge the $12 and stick a box in your night stand, they last for years!
Till Next Time, Lily!